“Personality Development”-How often do we hear this term, from our mentors, our teachers, on the covers of self-help books or on the banners of institutes and learning centers? The abundance of the usage of this term signals towards its importance in today’s life.
So what do you mean by personality development? Is it something about how you look, or how you speak? Or is it how easily you can connect with people? Personality development is none of these. Or somewhere it is all of it.
Here we got some simple yet crucial tips over how you can acquire a well-meaning personality.
For developing personality one should learn to judge personality in a right way. That is not about knowing about taste preference, favourite color, etc. You have to know yourself and what things in personality should be modified, what ingredients of your character make you strong and what weaknesses should be disposed. If you do not know about certain aspects of personality, speak to family and friends, take psychological tests for understanding yourself better.
Albert Einstein said once “We are all geniuses. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live all life, considering herself a fool.” You may differ from other people and won’t be a master in all spheres, but you have your own talents, abilities and skills. You should foster the strengths you have.
Bring positivity in your outlook/ Think positively
Your thoughts and your actions both need to be positive in order to have an attractive personality. The way we think has a lot of effect on the way how we act. And if one prospers positive thoughts inside his mind then that also gives him a confidence boost and enhances their personality. Situations and circumstances in life can always be full highs and lows. But in order to adopt a positive outlook towards life, you need to find the brighter side of the things and focus on the good parts.
There are always bad and good times. Sometimes students get what they want and that inspires to work harder; the other day they fail to achieve goals. It is important to be positive in critical situations. Surrounding persons and employers specially value and reach out for cheerful employees. Stay optimistic, do not allow things to prohibit you from accomplishing the tasks and remember that the bad times will end one day.
Yes, that’s the key. Being confident about who you are and what you are doing is the most important tip for personality development. Never doubt your capabilities and if there is something you need to work upon then put in all the effort so you can come over your fears and gain confidence. Read success stories or surround yourself with motivational thoughts or “encouragements” which can boost up your self esteem and help you in attaining a charming personality. Just everything you do, have faith in yourself and put in your hard work. There can be nothing more appealing in your personality than an incredible confidence.
Though one can always look up to other people to take an inspiration from, but you should still remain your own unique self. Each one of us is different, we have our own sets of skills and flaws and trying to be somebody else gets you nowhere and just simply backfires. Trying too hard to fit in a new group or wanting to belong should never take your authenticity and singularity away. Never try moulding into another person but instead work on being the best version of yourself.
Check your attire
I am not abruptly beginning to emphasize about your exterior self instead of your skills and abilities but one’s attire has an important role to play while making a desirable impression. And not just that, but it also gives yourself a confidence boost knowing that you look good and are dressed appropriately. Dress up in a decent manner and keeping your surroundings in mind. While flashy colors and too much body tattoos or piercings convey an unprofessional attitude, neatly ironed clothes make you look presentable.
Work on your Body Language
Body language is just as important for your personality as your verbal communication skills. It tells a lot about yourself and helps people in making accurate conjectures about you. Everything including the way you walk, sit, talk or eat leaves an impact over the people around you and having a correct body language can do wonders for your personality.
Here are the basics: keep an eye contact with a person who talks to you, pay attention what he says. Walk in an upright position with shoulders straight. Do not droop. Sit in a relaxed posture and Never cross your arms or legs if you disagree with an opinion, but do not want to offend the speaker.
Working on improving your personality is very essential, but also it is important to become friendly with others. Acquiring the habit of praising and appreciating people around you will also allow you to develop personality and build a successful career in future.
Being courteous is never out of fashion and is well appreciated and respected by everyone. Be humble and greet everyone with a smile. Never shy away from helping or supporting your peers and being available to them whenever they need you. Doing random acts of kindness will not just make somebody else’s day but it will also make you come along as a pleasing person. Also it will give your personality a confidence boost. Be humble and down to earth to your juniors and seniors alike.
Be a little fun
Oh yes, this is necessary! Being able to find a humorous side in otherwise terrible situations and bringing a little quirkiness of your own is appreciated by one and all. Everybody loves a person who can make them laugh and bring a funny perspective to the regular things of life. One does not need to be all serious and sober all the time but adorning your funny hat (not literally) every once in a while will turn you in to a more charming personality.
Be a good listener
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” True it is. Being a good listener may not seem like but it is an important step towards achieving a more likable personality. When somebody talks to you, listen with interest and give them all the attention and importance. Maintain a direct eye contact and do not get distracted by the surroundings. It will help you in knowing a better deal about people and attending them in a better way.
Read more often and develop new interests
A man of very few interests has very little to talk about. But if you are well informed about things and cultivate a number of interests, more people tend to like you. You can strike up interesting conversations instead of appearing to be dull and monotonous. When you meet new people you do not have to think about what to say as you can share your knowledge or your interests and get them indulged in conversation.
Meet new people
Meeting new and different kinds of people is a healthy step towards expanding your horizons and exposing yourself to a larger number of things. You get an opportunity to know more about other cultures and lifestyles and it significantly has a positive effect on your own personality.
Have an opinion
Having an opinion and being able to confidently put it forward doesn’t just help making your conversations interesting but it also makes you look more influential and well informed around other people. Never shy away from projecting your opinions even if they happen to conflict with those of other people. Be well informed about all the relevant stuff in your surrounding and fell free to have opinions. It will make you feel important too
Develop public speaking
Every student dreams to express ideas eloquently, using right words, compelling argument and maintaining confident tone. Practice speaking in a language your audience will understand and avoid using offensive words, whether you are talking to your educator or friends. There are many courses and books that help become proficient in speech. Also practice and improve your English, if you have to talk this language.